TMI Tuesday 10/26/15

Sex…ohhh yeah!

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1. Sex. What are your areas of expertise?

Well my boyfriend tells me I’m amazing at everything, but he really loves my hand jobs and blow jobs- no surprise there. I have also excelled lately at getting myself off!

2. How long have you been having sex?

Hmm. Almost 8 years?

3. What time of day do you prefer to have sex?
a. morning
b. afternoon
c. night

Well, I think I’ve been horniest in the afternoon lately, but whenever feels right!

4. Do you charge for sex? Money or some other means of payment?

Nope, I have sex when and because I want to and it feels right. I don’t want to do anything because I think I’ll get something out of it.

5. How long does your average sexual encounter last?

Uh about 45 mins? more than an hour? I only keep track when we have a quickie and I’m running late for work!

6. Do you have a safe word? What is it?

Not specifically. Stop or no works well for us right now.

Bonus: Ever had sex so good you broke things or something?

Not that I remember.

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Learning my body after all these years: Finding my cervix!

Cervix diagramSo this is a bit embarrassing to admit, but I’ve never actually consciously searched for and felt my cervix until recently. I guess I never had much reason to or thought it necessary or important to interact with my cervix. However, I have had issues with my cervix from irritation from my Nuva Ring, to pain when it’s been hit during intercourse, to difficulties using internal products because I just don’t understand my vagina. I feel like identifying something I’ve felt numerous times has been undeniably empowering for me. I have felt my cervix, I have one. Not that I had any doubt but I’d never felt it, how many parts of our body can we say we just discovered?? The reason I’ve never much noticed it before is because my cervix is soft and high. Even on my period when it is harder and lower, it still took me looking for it to realize that was my cervix and not just some random part of my vagina, because it is high and soft- basically the same as the rest of my vagina, just shaped differently. I had to know what I was looking for and look for it, otherwise it all just seemed like internal flesh to me. Because I never really understood my vagina. I had curves and it extended in weird spots, which I now realize as my cervix and the space around my cervix; my anterior and posterior fornix. I always assumed my vagina was just a tube with my cervix being the very top, but it’s not. My cervix isn’t flat on the top. In my case, sticking a finger straight into my vagina, my cervix will be felt on the pad of the finger and not the tip. This makes more sense when looking at a median plane cross diagram of the vagina/uterus rather than a frontal plane. From a frontal plane it simply looks like the cervix is at the top, whereas a median plane looks like the cervix comes in from the side as evidenced in the picture at the top which I found from Google. I’ve only lived with this cervix/vagina pairing all my life and never realized how the two different ways of viewing it affected my perception of where I thought my cervix was. Now that I know what I’m feeling, my vagina makes so much more sense to me. I feel more confident in my ability to pick out a menstrual cup appropriate for my anatomy. I feel more comfortable in my ability to use certain barrier methods of birth control, should I choose to use those. I feel so much more connected to my body. If you haven’t explored your body and your cervix, if you have one, I recommend you do. And if you don’t have a cervix, get to know your body too- being familiar with your body when it is healthy will help you identify when something changes that could possibly be serious. Feel your breasts, feel your testicles, massage your prostate, find your cervix. Just get comfortable with your body and the anatomy that you have, it’s yours and it could save your life!

* I realize some people experience dysphoria on varying levels, if that is the case- do what is best for you. I am not a doctor, but if feeling and exploring parts of your body will be bad for you and your mental/emotional health/overall well-being, then listen to that. You know you better than anyone. Just don’t ignore obvious signs of potential maladies and see a doctor regularly.