Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is actually one of my favorite holidays. I know it’s kind of a boring favorite holiday, but I love it. To me, it is a day to celebrate love and self-care. My favorite part is a tradition I started a while back. Every V-Day I stay in, pick a good movie, and order Chinese food. I’ve been doing it for about five years now. Whatever self-care and love means to you, embrace it! Which is why this year I am recommending the gift that keeps on giving: a few solid, body-safe sex toys to give instead of flowers that will just die.

I tried to have a variety of price levels and include a variety of toys to suit your needs. Unfortunately, I haven’t had much experience with toys in the higher price categories that I would recommend. So I have included a few I haven’t personally experienced but that have been given very positive reviews (I have also included the review that made me deem it worthy of including on this list). I also used SheVibe’s pricing for all my numbers, unless noted.



Magic Wand Rechargeable ($124)- A wand vibrator that is so strong, and the silicone head adds some cushion that allows me to really grind into those vibes.

New York Toy Collective Shilo Pack and Play ($139)- Read Aerie’s review of it here. I mean look at that head and those colors. This one is definitely on my wish list!

Liberator Fascinator Throe ($110-$180)- A fluffy, waterproof blanket designed to keep your hot messy sex off your sheets. Whether you are a squirter, sweater, or you are worried about semen or lube getting on your sheets, waterproof blankets help take your focus off worrying and more on fun. Read Reenie’s review of it here.


We-Vibe Tango ($79)- This is one of the best little vibes around! Totally waterproof and very powerful. I can’t recommend it enough, and for what it’s done for me and my sex life, it is invaluable.

VixSkin Mustang ($99)- This is one of the most realistic dildos I’ve ever felt thanks to the VixSkin dual density. If you are looking for a realistic feeling dildo in a middle of the road size, the VixSkin Mustang is a must have! Available in a variety of colors, including flesh tones, tye-die, and neon pink.

Hot Octopuss Pulse II Solo ($99)- The great thing about this toy is that it can be used while flaccid, which is an amazing option for those who cannot get or maintain an erection. You can read Dangerous Lilly’s review of it here.

Below $50

Tantus Slow Drive Long ($44)- This dildo is a very firm silicone, but that curve hits my a-spot like none other. It’s a thinner dildo, but it mainly focuses on my a-spot, and boy does it hit it! If you or your Valentine love a-spot stim, I’d highly recommend this for a cheap, high quality, body-safe sex toy.

Tantus Grab Bag (various prices on Tantus‘ site)- Grab Bags are dildos that Tantus makes when they change their silicone so they come in random, surprise colors at a great discount. They offer multiple different styles, but from what I’ve heard the way their O2 dildos are cast, the grab bag is not an option for those styles. If you don’t care about colors or are on a budget, these toys can’t be beat!

Sliquid Lube ($10-$12): If you are using it with silicone toys, stick with water based. I love the Sassy, and I’ve also heard it’s a great water-based lube for anal use.



Tantus: Offering 15-25% off certain bundle options, 20% off vibrators through the end of January (code PLAYTIME). Free shipping on orders over $100 (for US ground).

SheVibe: 15% off orders over $75 through January (code HAPPY). Free shipping on orders over $75 (for US ground).


Keep in mind, that if you want your items by the big day, you should order soon!

Last day for guaranteed Tantus ground shipping: 2/2; SheVibe Ground Shipping: 2/1

Astroglide Ultra Gentle Lube review

astroglide frontAs you may remember from my Rousey post, I’m a huge fan of lube. Lube is great. There is nothing to be ashamed about when it comes to using lube, whether you are using it for added fun or necessity. However, not all lubes are made the same! It is important to make an informed decision about your lube based on facts and your experiences with your body.

So without further ado, my first lube review:

I got this lube at a grocery store. I went to the easiest place to find some lube and looked for the best bet for me. I had tried a few lubes before, normal lubes, heated lubes, etc. the heated lube was my first experience with a lube that really burned. I assumed it was because it was a little too strong of a heating agent and my body is very sensitive. I now know that it was because of all of those chemicals that caused the burning! Needless to say, I never used that lube again.

Flash forward 5 years and I am in search of lubes again. I am conscientious of the fact that my body is very sensitive, and I need to use something that will be gentle on my body. I looked at all the lubes they offered, which was only a handful of bottles. The Astroglide Ultra Gentle Gel was marked Sensitive Skin at the top. I went with that one as it seemed like my best bet.

The lube itself seemed promising as it was a very thick gel compared to other lubes I’ve tried. I like thicker I think, though this will be personal preference. I enjoyed it fine the first few times I used it, and I only used a pea sized amount. The cap opens easily and doesn’t leak. The design is nice and attractive, but it just doesn’t quite fit where I store my go-to items. It is water based, which is good since most of my toys are silicone and it is recommended to not use silicone toys with silicone lube. At first glance, it looked very promising. However, eventually I started feeling that tingling, burning. It felt like the lube was a little gummy and wouldn’t keep things well lubricated for long. This, I am learning, is because of the chemicals in the lube. Chemicals that aren’t very friendly to skin, especially sensitive skin. Go figure.

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There is some research coming out about lubes, the quality of lubes, and the effect it has on our bodies. There is research about osmolality, pH balance, as well as chemicals that are in our lubes. Mucous membranes on genitals are very sensitive which is why this research is so important. You can check out the slides presented by Sarah Mueller at Woodhull 2015 here. In short, it discuses how the composition and design of a lube impacts our bodies, and thereby impacting our sexual experiences.  It also shows what to look for when picking out a lube. It doesn’t cover all lubes, but it gives you a good idea of some of the bigger name brands, like Astroglide.

You can also check out Artemisia FemmeCock’s post on LubeScouting for more information.

Because of my experience with it, and all the research coming out, I cannot recommend this lube or really any Astroglide. As this is my first lube review, if you are looking for a lube, I recommend Sliquid. I have three of their water-based lubes, which as I mentioned are good if you are pairing them with silicone toys.  Keep an eye out for my review of Sliquid lubes!


TMI Tuesday 1/5/16

Happy New Year and Let’s play TMI Tuesday!



What is sexier…
1. arms or shoulders? Does back count in the “shoulders”, because back.
2. ass or legs? Ass
3. pussy or dick? Why? This is a tough one for me. I think I’m more aroused by seeing a vulva than a penis at least in porn because I think I think about mine, but I think I would rather interact with a penis.
4. feet or hands? Why? Definitely hands. Mmmm, just thinking about what they can/will do, where they’ve been, just yum.
5. muscles or brains? Brains, definitely!

Bonus: Do you think you’re sexy? Yep ; )


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!