Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is actually one of my favorite holidays. I know it’s kind of a boring favorite holiday, but I love it. To me, it is a day to celebrate love and self-care. My favorite part is a tradition I started a while back. Every V-Day I stay in, pick a good movie, and order Chinese food. I’ve been doing it for about five years now. Whatever self-care and love means to you, embrace it! Which is why this year I am recommending the gift that keeps on giving: a few solid, body-safe sex toys to give instead of flowers that will just die.

I tried to have a variety of price levels and include a variety of toys to suit your needs. Unfortunately, I haven’t had much experience with toys in the higher price categories that I would recommend. So I have included a few I haven’t personally experienced but that have been given very positive reviews (I have also included the review that made me deem it worthy of including on this list). I also used SheVibe’s pricing for all my numbers, unless noted.



Magic Wand Rechargeable ($124)- A wand vibrator that is so strong, and the silicone head adds some cushion that allows me to really grind into those vibes.

New York Toy Collective Shilo Pack and Play ($139)- Read Aerie’s review of it here. I mean look at that head and those colors. This one is definitely on my wish list!

Liberator Fascinator Throe ($110-$180)- A fluffy, waterproof blanket designed to keep your hot messy sex off your sheets. Whether you are a squirter, sweater, or you are worried about semen or lube getting on your sheets, waterproof blankets help take your focus off worrying and more on fun. Read Reenie’s review of it here.


We-Vibe Tango ($79)- This is one of the best little vibes around! Totally waterproof and very powerful. I can’t recommend it enough, and for what it’s done for me and my sex life, it is invaluable.

VixSkin Mustang ($99)- This is one of the most realistic dildos I’ve ever felt thanks to the VixSkin dual density. If you are looking for a realistic feeling dildo in a middle of the road size, the VixSkin Mustang is a must have! Available in a variety of colors, including flesh tones, tye-die, and neon pink.

Hot Octopuss Pulse II Solo ($99)- The great thing about this toy is that it can be used while flaccid, which is an amazing option for those who cannot get or maintain an erection. You can read Dangerous Lilly’s review of it here.

Below $50

Tantus Slow Drive Long ($44)- This dildo is a very firm silicone, but that curve hits my a-spot like none other. It’s a thinner dildo, but it mainly focuses on my a-spot, and boy does it hit it! If you or your Valentine love a-spot stim, I’d highly recommend this for a cheap, high quality, body-safe sex toy.

Tantus Grab Bag (various prices on Tantus‘ site)- Grab Bags are dildos that Tantus makes when they change their silicone so they come in random, surprise colors at a great discount. They offer multiple different styles, but from what I’ve heard the way their O2 dildos are cast, the grab bag is not an option for those styles. If you don’t care about colors or are on a budget, these toys can’t be beat!

Sliquid Lube ($10-$12): If you are using it with silicone toys, stick with water based. I love the Sassy, and I’ve also heard it’s a great water-based lube for anal use.



Tantus: Offering 15-25% off certain bundle options, 20% off vibrators through the end of January (code PLAYTIME). Free shipping on orders over $100 (for US ground).

SheVibe: 15% off orders over $75 through January (code HAPPY). Free shipping on orders over $75 (for US ground).


Keep in mind, that if you want your items by the big day, you should order soon!

Last day for guaranteed Tantus ground shipping: 2/2; SheVibe Ground Shipping: 2/1

Astroglide Ultra Gentle Lube review

astroglide frontAs you may remember from my Rousey post, I’m a huge fan of lube. Lube is great. There is nothing to be ashamed about when it comes to using lube, whether you are using it for added fun or necessity. However, not all lubes are made the same! It is important to make an informed decision about your lube based on facts and your experiences with your body.

So without further ado, my first lube review:

I got this lube at a grocery store. I went to the easiest place to find some lube and looked for the best bet for me. I had tried a few lubes before, normal lubes, heated lubes, etc. the heated lube was my first experience with a lube that really burned. I assumed it was because it was a little too strong of a heating agent and my body is very sensitive. I now know that it was because of all of those chemicals that caused the burning! Needless to say, I never used that lube again.

Flash forward 5 years and I am in search of lubes again. I am conscientious of the fact that my body is very sensitive, and I need to use something that will be gentle on my body. I looked at all the lubes they offered, which was only a handful of bottles. The Astroglide Ultra Gentle Gel was marked Sensitive Skin at the top. I went with that one as it seemed like my best bet.

The lube itself seemed promising as it was a very thick gel compared to other lubes I’ve tried. I like thicker I think, though this will be personal preference. I enjoyed it fine the first few times I used it, and I only used a pea sized amount. The cap opens easily and doesn’t leak. The design is nice and attractive, but it just doesn’t quite fit where I store my go-to items. It is water based, which is good since most of my toys are silicone and it is recommended to not use silicone toys with silicone lube. At first glance, it looked very promising. However, eventually I started feeling that tingling, burning. It felt like the lube was a little gummy and wouldn’t keep things well lubricated for long. This, I am learning, is because of the chemicals in the lube. Chemicals that aren’t very friendly to skin, especially sensitive skin. Go figure.

astroglide back

There is some research coming out about lubes, the quality of lubes, and the effect it has on our bodies. There is research about osmolality, pH balance, as well as chemicals that are in our lubes. Mucous membranes on genitals are very sensitive which is why this research is so important. You can check out the slides presented by Sarah Mueller at Woodhull 2015 here. In short, it discuses how the composition and design of a lube impacts our bodies, and thereby impacting our sexual experiences.  It also shows what to look for when picking out a lube. It doesn’t cover all lubes, but it gives you a good idea of some of the bigger name brands, like Astroglide.

You can also check out Artemisia FemmeCock’s post on LubeScouting for more information.

Because of my experience with it, and all the research coming out, I cannot recommend this lube or really any Astroglide. As this is my first lube review, if you are looking for a lube, I recommend Sliquid. I have three of their water-based lubes, which as I mentioned are good if you are pairing them with silicone toys.  Keep an eye out for my review of Sliquid lubes!


TMI Tuesday 1/5/16

Happy New Year and Let’s play TMI Tuesday!



What is sexier…
1. arms or shoulders? Does back count in the “shoulders”, because back.
2. ass or legs? Ass
3. pussy or dick? Why? This is a tough one for me. I think I’m more aroused by seeing a vulva than a penis at least in porn because I think I think about mine, but I think I would rather interact with a penis.
4. feet or hands? Why? Definitely hands. Mmmm, just thinking about what they can/will do, where they’ve been, just yum.
5. muscles or brains? Brains, definitely!

Bonus: Do you think you’re sexy? Yep ; )


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The New Year

Well, 2015 has been a very interesting year. I had a fantastic Christmas Eve and in case you missed my Twitter summary, I’ll re-post it all here (obviously copied and condensed):

Christmas Eve has always been more special to me than Christmas. The anticipation, the annual last minute shopping trip, the dinner. This year was the first year I couldn’t make our shopping trip because of work. I’m grateful for my job, but it wasn’t the same. Celebrating my Christmas Eve w/ my love & kitten, I forgot the champagne but have plenty of wine, baileys & hot chocolate & Chinese food. Just had amazing Christmas Eve sex to Christmas music and Netflix’s yule log fire. I have a good life. That was some of the most intimate, beautiful, relaxing sex I’ve ever had.

With the new year coming up, and it being my anniversary, I figured I should make a post wrapping up the year and documenting some of the changes happening in my life.

Key Moments of 2015:

I started this blog and reviewing sex toys

I started my first real job since graduating college

I went from part-time to full-time

I lost a family member

My partner and I moved in together

I orgasmed in front of someone other than me

I orgasmed during sex

Orgasming during sex became consistent

I went paintballing

I attended a wedding of a new friend

I had an amazing Christmas Eve

I survived the Christmas rush at work


Goals for 2016:

To get a new job

To find a program to go back to school for

To find a better birth control

To find a new place to live

To make more friends


Allover Favorite Toy of 2015: WeVibe Tango because it totally revolutionized my sex life

Favorite Vibrator of 2015: Magic Wand Rechargeable because the power during sex feels soo so good and brings me to my knees.

Favorite Dildo of 2015: Tantus Slow Drive Long because it hit the right spot perfectly and immediately

Favorite Month of 2015: July because of my Fourth of July, I was gaining knowledge at my job, and my boyfriend was enjoying his job. Things were in general very care-free and fun.

Speaking of 2016, wait for these reviews next year!

That’s about a wrap from me- I hope you all had a great year! I would love to hear about the highlights of your year in the comments!

Schick Quattro Trimstyle

Schick Quatro Trim Style

The Schick Quattro For Women Trimstyle (the “For Women” is extremely important and mandatory apparently… *sigh*) had pretty good reviews online. At least compared to the other “for women bikini trimmers”. I shudder to think what those would have been like. The trimmer head on this is too narrow and the motor is very weak. It makes trimming with this an agonizingly long and painful process. I would have to go over an area multiple times to get it to work and to get the hair to go into the guard to be trimmed. I remember the trimmer pulling and nicking, even with the guard on. The few times I took the guard off I nicked myself very badly immediately. The thing runs on a battery, so I shouldn’t have been at all shocked that it was extremely lackluster at best and painful at worst. I will admit the design is fairly attractive, the razor on the other end was also a decent shaving razor for my legs, and it’s at least splashproof, but that’s about as far as the compliments go. I threw it out once I got my favorite trimmer and the razor was dull.

I cannot recommend this trimmer. I don’t think it’s necessary to spend about $15 for something that basically only works as a normal shaving razor. It’s a nice razor, but not worth that price. If you are looking for a trimmer as an alternative to shaving, this is not a good option, I recommend this.

You might like it if:

-You are only concerned with aesthetics

-You are more interested in a good shaving razor (and are willing to pay the price)

-You need to use it in the shower

-You only need to trim a small area

Don’t get it if:

-You want something that works well and quickly

-You have sensitive skin

-You are concerned about nicking/pulling

-You have a large area to trim

TMI Tuesday: 12/22/15

Busy day, busy week but not too busy to TMI Tuesday.

Let’s play doctor


1. Have you had major surgery? What type?

Not really major, but I had my wisdom teeth out and a few year prior I had a slightly more serious oral surgery.
2. Have you died and been resuscitated?

3. Do you have surgery scar(s) that embarrass you? Where?

I have surgery scars on my back, they don’t embarrass me as much as I am afraid of them.
4. Do you have a scar, on your body, of which you are proud?

Not really.
5. Have you ever played doctor and nurse as foreplay for sex? Which were you–doctor or nurse?

No, actually.

Bonus: Do you like bdsm medical play? What about that excites you?

I’ve never engaged in it, so I guess I’m not sure. But it doesn’t really excite me.


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TMI Tuesday 12/8/15

It’s time for another TMI Tuesday and…



If I were to come to your home…
1. And look in your refrigerator what would I see?

Well, luckily my boyfriend just cleaned it out, and I haven’t actually looked in it, so I’m not entirely sure. But we usually have too much shit, too many condiments, and stuff that’s gone bad.
2. And open your front room closet or hall closet, what would I see?

Lots of jackets and shoes, some cleaning stuff, some holiday stuff, nothing too exciting
3. And open the top left drawer of your dresser, what would I see?

Well I only have a top drawer, but it’s where I keep my panties and bras. Well- where I’m supposed to keep them, they usually end up all over the place.
4. And go to your bedroom and look under the bed, what would I see?

LOTS of dust bunnies, some kleenex, socks, condom wrappers.
5. And look under your basement stairs, what would I find?

Don’t have those!

Bonus: When visiting other people’s homes and using the bathroom–friends, relatives, parties–do you look in their medicine chest?

Only if I need something, like toilet paper, kleenex, more soap. Or if I’m suspicious of them.


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Fill in the blanks for this TMI Tuesday. Make it fun, make it sexy or do whatever you want.

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1. My dream vacation is to someplace not cold where I can explore and see sights/museums/etc .

2. Right now I’m in bed snuggling with my cat.

3. I’m done with people.

4. The most enjoyable thing around the holidays is FOOOOOD, desserts, FOOOOD .

5. Dashing through the snow, in a blah blah blah blah blah .

6. When my blog is broken, it’s not broken.

7. If only I didn’t have to work every day.

Bonus: I saw the most amazing movie this last night!


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TMI Tuesday 11/24/15

At 6:30 this morning I realized that I forgot to write TMI Tuesday. So from the comfort of my bed I created TMI Tuesday with questions compiled from my 2010 blog The Pleasure Principle

TMI Flashback

1. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed… romance, experimentation or foreplay?

Hmm probably foreplay, our romance and experimentation game is fairly strong

2. What are three mistakes someone could make on the first date with you that would automatically make you turn down a second date with them?

Well I’m not dating anymore, but probably:

3- being on their phones

2- being rude to waiters/servers

1- anyway unwanted or aggressive sexual behaviors or stories/suggestions of such

3 Tell us something sexual you do not do anymore? Why?

hmm. I’m not sure there’s anything that I used to do that I don’t do anymore. Maybe rougher stuff like choking or hair pulling- it just doesn’t really fit with my sex life at the moment. I have nothing against it, and maybe that will change, it just isn’t something that’s happened.

4. During sex would you rather have a lover: (pick only one)
a. pull your hair
b. scratch your back
c. spank your ass

OOOO such a good question!!! So good! We typically go with C- spank your ass, however lately massage my back has been rising in popularity. I know that’s not an option, but it should be. I used to enjoy A- pull your hair, but it’s not something I’ve done lately, not even sure if I’d still like it.

5. Foreplay: Is there such a thing as too much? If it’s the kind of foreplay I wouldn’t be able to orgasm from, it could get frustrating.

Bonus: What is the best thing about you?

Hm. well my boyfriend’s first response was how snuggle-able I am, after some prodding he said “your sweet sweet butt…MAKE SURE THEY KNOW I’M JOKING. But you do have a sweet sweet butt” It’s a hard question.


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TMI Tuesday 11/17/15

Truly TMI Tuesday. What are you hiding?


1. Tell us something you like but you hide it from your friends because you think they well make fun of you or not understand.

Hm. Well, I don’t have many friends but I’m pretty much an open book with them, but everyone else I very much operate on need to know. I am very hard to read and at work people constantly imply the whole “beware of the quiet ones”/”we know there’s so much more to you that you are letting on but we have no idea” mantra.

2. Tell us something you hide from you family because they would be ashamed of you.

I keep a lot from my family, but I don’t think it has to do with them being ashamed of me. I think it more has to do with not wanting to deal with potential judgement, opinions, or advice.

3. What do you hide from your kids because they just don’t need to know?

No kids, one cat- I don’t hide anything from him.

4. When was the last time you hid from something or someone?

Literally? Probably in a grocery store when I saw someone I had met at a meetup the weekend before and had a very awkward interaction with.

5. What things or objects do you hide regularly?

Nothing really, I hide my phone screen a lot because my family doesn’t know about my blog and/or I’m at work and it’s super NSFW, although my work probably wouldn’t care they’d just understand a WHOLE lot more about me.

Bonus: What did someone hide and you found?

My mom used to (very poorly) hide her rabbits and I stumbled upon them many a times.


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